I’ve written a few posts on here about relationships, love and commitment… and I’m about to write one more. James and I have been watching this season’s Bacherlorette on ABC and I must admit, shamefully, that I was on the edge of my seat every episode. I usually don’t watch The Bachelor nor do I watch many of The Bacherlorettes, but there was something different about this lady. She had me at the first “will you accept this rose?”

Tonight was the finale of the show and I’ve never been more upset in my life. She chose the wrong guy, in my expert TV opinion. The guy who I was totally gunning for (Jason) just got his heart broke, literally, on national TV. I know, some of you on here are probably thinking “this is a reality show… there’s no such thing as falling in love on a TV show.” Well, if you watched this season, I think you’d have to agree that people can and do crazy things for love. So that got me thinking, primarily because I felt so sad and heartbroken for Jason, why do we do the things we do for love?

Whether it’s staying in a relationship that isn’t progressing because you’re too in love with the other person or it’s risking your image, your heart and your self-worth on a national TV show, we humans do strange AND HARD things for love. I’ve yet to see (in real life or on TV) people do the things they do for any other thing on this Earth (except I will admit people do some CRAZY things for money). Sure, we all know someone who will eat a raw oyster or a spoiled egg for a hundred bucks… but can you honestly say these people would risk rejection or heart break for money? I don’t think many would. Yet, people do it every day for love!

Love is something that isn’t tangible, in my opinion. I’m learning so much about love in these last two years, due to the relationship I’m in, than I ever thought possible. And those who know me, know that these lessons haven’t been the most enjoyable. However, they are lessons that I’ve found to be truly valuable.

So, my awesome readers, what are your thoughts? Do you think people do crazy things for love? If so, what? Give me a personal example!

I’ve had the topic of relationships going in my head for a couple of months now.  I’ve been with my significant other for 2 years (June 2nd) and although we’re going through a pretty rough, rocky time I am still working my ass off in making it succeed and so is he.  Of all topics that humans deal with, relationships seem to be one of the hardest topics to understand.  Why?  Well, it seems with my own personal examples, whenever you have to seek answers outside of yourself and your partner, you get so many conflicting answers from people.  Some say to do this, others say to do that.  Some say if he/she doesn’t say or do this, then he/she doesn’t love you.  Others say that’s simply not true.

So I want something in writing.  I want to know what makes YOU and YOUR relationship tick.  And if you’re single now, give me an example of when you were in a relationship and what worked (or what didn’t work might be a better answer).

I want to do a little project with you, my awesome and educated readers.  Please leave a comment below and answer this following question:

In a relationship, what is the one thing that keeps it going? (alive, working, longterm, thrive, survive)?  Give me your one answer and feel free to elaborate.  I will be forever indebted to you!

I’m all about sharing great material across this vast “openness” we call the world wide web and I recently came across this wonderful video (thanks to Mark on www.remarkk.com) that I had to put in my own blog. Watch this – this is one of those videos that will make you think without putting forth much effort. I hope you like it as much as I did.

http://www.vimeo.com/755793