The best relationship advice I can give is that when things are at the hardest moment and you are laying on the proverbial floor – think for a moment – really imagine what it would feel like if the phone rang and you received news that your spouse was dead. Really let yourself feel it for a few moments. An entire lifetime of never seeing that face again. It always hit me like a wake up call that I really loved my spouse & I’d stand up able and willing to work things out instead of walking away. And usually whatever it was that we’d been fighting about was something I’d realize I would actually miss him doing if something horrible happened to him. I’d come back to myself realizing that what was needed was acceptance – even if I didn’t agree with his views or what he was doing.

So I guess I’d say communication & acceptance are the things that made our relationship work.

Personally, I find my relationship works best when we are supporting each other and when we get out and enjoy time together, outside of the norm. So even if that means something as simple as a walk in the park, it is time when we are talking instead of being over comfortable with a set routine. It’s important to have a routine, but also break it reguarly with spontaneous fun together.

I think it is very important for a couple to be completely honest with each other. If you hate something your partner does even I’d it I’d a small thing but you just can’t get used to it no matter how hard you try. You need to tell your partner that it bothers you, I’d they really care about you they will stop. Ive learned this is very important in family relations in general. Thanks for the post!

Communication is also key–the only times we’ve ever fought (and I can count them on one hand) are when we don’t adequately communicate with one another. It’s so important to be honest and open with one another if something bothers you or you need something that you’re not getting. It’s also important to communicate the good things–the happy things, the things you love about each other. I don’t ever leave the house or hang up the phone without telling him that I love him, and he does the same. I love hearing what a good cook I am, because it makes me feel like I can do something to help take good care of him. I always make sure he knows how much I appreciate him taking care of things when I’m not feeling well (which seems to be all the time lately). Those things may not seem like much, but our relationship is always the richer for them.